This isn’t your grandma’s dating world. As I mentioned before, VH1 exists and so do Bret Michaels, Ray-J, and Flava Flav. Times are steadily changing and I am not prepared for it. Growing up I learned about the traditional way of getting involved in a relationship, but when I finally grew up, the dating universe was not at all how I imagined it would be. The only way to grab a girl these days is at the bar or at a party. Keep in mind I have a limited view of the dating world. Going to Boston College, I have, on more than one occasion heard the utterance of “what the hell is a date?” Sadly, I am unable to answer that myself. I have had two girlfriends and I don’t know if I have ever been on a date before. Depressing, I know. I put on my Sherlock Holmes hat and investigated what relationships are really about and what they are composed of and I found that they are based on three key components: feelings of attachment, fulfillment of psychological needs, and interdependence. Another thing worth noting is the social exchange theory, which is the idea that people seek to maximize gains and minimize losses in their relationships. I surprisingly still believe in that, but 2009 is throwing me for a loop. Match.com, Eharmony, and Plenty of Fish are all very popular online dating site that have seen a hike in members the past couple of years. The question I have is how can you develop this attachment, fulfillment of needs, and interdependence through a computer screen? I need to know this answer because this is obviously where my dating life is going on May 18th.
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